The best way to cherish life is not to maintain health, but also to manage emotions.
Author: Wo sweet (rich book signing Author) married only five years Xiaohui got fired.
Five years ago, under the urging of her family, she married our colleague Wang Ping. At the time, I felt that the two were quite fateful. Who knows that this turned out to be an evil.
There are many young people in the unit, and they often play together. Everyone is familiar with each other.
Wang Ping was always a girlfriend, but the family had always opposed it, and Xiaohui had someone personally, but he never said anything to him until the man got married.
The friends joked: “The two of you are together, and the conditions are good.”
“Jokes are jokes, Xiaohui is on the heart.”
She and Wang Ping agreed that for a year, if Wang Ping’s struggle with his family was unsuccessful, they would get married.
A year later, they really got married.
At the beginning, the relationship between the two was fairly good, and they often came to the party. Later, gradually, two people did not come often.
Sometimes I can see Wang Ping, and Xiaohui, only by phone, will often be hanged by Wang Ping.
After Wang Ping hangs up, there are always friends in the phone who pick up Xiaohui, just ask: “Wang Ping is with you?
Is Wang Ping there?
“Intuition has a problem between the two people, they did not say, we also did not ask tacitly.
Until this time routine physical examination, Xiaohui had diabetes.
Xiaohui crashed and cried, and everyone knew that Wang Ping had never broken his contact with his ex-girlfriend.
When I got married, Wang Ping’s attitude was hindered. After the two moved, Wang Ping was over-excited.
The woman also secretly provoked Xiaohui.
Xiaohui looked for him and cried, and Wang Ping and the woman could not break.
Xiaohui is a person who wants to be strong and loves her face. She is not willing to tell others that she is unwilling to let the widowed mother worry, not to propose a divorce, and to hide all the grievances in her heart.
For so many years, depression, sorrow and pain have all accumulated in her heart, and under her pretending smile, she has been attacking her body all the time.
The doctor said that Xiaohui’s illness is related to her emotions.
When I was a child, I heard the story of Wu Zikai’s white-headed night. I don’t really believe that a good person can completely whiten his hair overnight.
Looking at Xiaohui in the hospital bed, I suddenly felt that the long-term enough emotions were really terrible.
Studies have shown that when we generate various emotions, the first thing that is attacked is the body’s immune system.
Emotions pass through the endocrine, leaving a permanent mark on the internal organs. When the immunity declines, the resistance is weakened and the disease comes.
Regarding the influence of emotions on the body, “The Yellow Emperor’s Internal Classic” has long been recorded: “Angers hurt the liver, like sadness, think of hurting the spleen, sadness of the lungs, fear of hurting the kidneys.
“Different emotions attack different human organs.
Candidates always want to go to the toilet when they meet the exam; urban white-collar workers are nervous and there will be migraine.
This is because fear and nervous emotions affect the kidneys, and the urinary system of kidney failure and adrenaline, which affects the spirit of the human spirit; when people are worried about things, they will not think about tea, no appetite, this is more people.Thinking, affecting the spleen and stomach.
For women, the uterus and breast problems are closely related to emotions.
Emotionally irritated girls, easy to get uterine fibroids, leading to decreased ovarian function; often sulking, breast problems will find the upper body, easy breast hyperplasia and nodules.
Traditional Chinese medicine theory often uses “qi” and “heart” to explain the causes of all kinds of diseases, “one hundred diseases are born in the gas”, “one hundred diseases are born from the heart”.
“Qi” and “Heart” are actually people’s emotions, because the mood is not good, and the emotions do not cause the blood and blood to be meridized.
If you pass, then it will not hurt; if it is painful, it will not work, and the disease will come.
People often say that the body is more honest than the mouth.
Although you don’t say it, even if you cover up very well, but what you think and think, your emotions are ups and downs, and you don’t land at all, you are faithfully recorded and precipitated.
Happy, joyful, the body is in a stretched upward posture; frustrated, lost, the body will be like the branches of autumn, stiff and lifeless.
Ill, that is, these emotions accumulate to the top, and the body screams.Modern people pay special attention to health, hope for health, expect longevity, and spare no expense to protect their bodies.
The fitness card is set up, the tea is drunk, and a lot of tonics are eaten, but the care of the emotions is often ignored.
The best way to spare your life is not to maintain your health, but to manage your emotions.
To manage emotions, you must first understand the truth about the emotions.
There is an old woman, she has two daughters, the eldest daughter sells umbrellas, and the little daughter sells salt.
When the weather is good, she is worried that the umbrella of the eldest daughter is not selling well; when it rains, she is worried that the salt of the little daughter is not selling well.
So she is suffering every day.
Someone said to her: “Why don’t you think about the little daughter’s salt selling well on a sunny day, and think about the big daughter’s umbrella selling well on a rainy day?
“Where the old lady thought, isn’t it.”
Since then she has lived happily.
She is very happy no matter what the weather is.
It can be seen that the real cause of emotions is not the things themselves, even the opinions and attitudes of people, and the ideas they hold.
This is reminiscent of the law of Festinger. Only 10% of what happens in our lives is naturally occurring, and the remaining 90% is a substitute for our reaction to things.
There is also emotion, which causes the remaining 90%.
Japanese writer Watanabe Watanabe recorded such a story in his book.
Watanabe Watanabe, who was a fledgling one, attended a literary salon and met a talented writer O.
As the same batch of writers who have just entered the business, they have all encountered the rejection of the manuscript.
Watanabe’s refusal to review the manuscript is very open.
He said, “At that moment, you can only rely on saying that “the editor doesn’t understand the novel at all”, “I can’t find my talent, it’s really a bad guy” and so on to comfort myself, and at the same time I ran to the cheap bar in Shinjuku and buried myself.Getting bored.
After the wine woke up, it was revived.
The self-defeating O was defeated by the rejection.
Undoubtedly, it was defeated after the rejection of the manuscript.
“He is not scratching his head or sighing, a gloomy and faint expression, and there is no desire or fighting spirit to create new works.
“To treat the same thing, different people have different reactions and emotions, and the same person, when they look at the problem from different angles, will get different moods.
Therefore, to manage your own emotions, you must change your thinking. It is controllable to pay attention to your emotions and temper. It can be changed through the training and learning of the day after tomorrow.
We can try to improve our ability to control higher emotions by the following methods.
1. Focus on inner practice, practice short-lived feelings on the outside Sometimes, inner waves, emotional ups and downs often come from being too sensitive to the outside world.
If others do not respond to the information in time, they are worried that they have made a mistake; if they see their colleagues stop chatting, they will feel that they are talking about themselves; they are angry with their bosses, worrying that they have made a mistake. but this is not the case.
The feeling of everything is just because you are too sensitive and considerate.
I didn’t return the information, just because I didn’t see it in time; I stopped chatting, but I didn’t want to plan the secret of the birthday party for you. The boss is just making himself angry.
The “sensitivity” mentioned by Japanese writer Watanabe Watanabe is a good means of dealing with sensitivity.
The so-called insensitive power is the power of dullness, that is, calmly facing the pain in life, not too sensitive.
In general, the skin should be thicker, the heart should be wider, and it should be slower.
2, when the emotions are excited, you must learn to transfer the target. Remembering that when watching the TV series “Wulin Biography”, Guo Furong was a very tempered person, often sending some nameless fires, hurting innocents, she became very distressed.
Xiu Cai gave her an idea, let her often meditate: “The world is so beautiful, I am so violent, so bad, not good .” After several times, Guo Furong’s number of fires gradually decreased.
At the same time, you can also use the number “1, 2, 3.” to delay the outbreak of temper; you can also leave the scene quickly to control your own temper.
3, a good habit study to develop physical exercise shows that exercise will produce a happy factor.
People are happy, and healthy compounds are produced in the blood.
The more happy people, the less they have the body, the less they can lose, the healthier they are.
Through exercise, we can regulate the body’s happiness factor and dissipate the emotional complications in the brain.
When the mood is smooth, the mentality is sunny, and the body will regain its vitality like a dead wood.
The poet Lu You once said: “Heart disease is self-defeating.
Zhang Lei, a 65-year-old doctor, defeated cancer by swimming and developed himself into a swimming champion.
When she summed up her anti-cancer experience, “not panic” is her magic weapon.
“Do not panic” is to adjust the mood to be peaceful, normal, to face the consequences.
An optimistic attitude, peace of mind, is better than healing stones, so be sure to love yourself, not only to love your body, but also to care for your own mood.
Moving with your heart, not reluctant to yourself, not embarrassing yourself.
American biologist William Frey once said: “Strongly holding back your tears is tantamount to chronic suicide.
The philosopher Kant also said: “It is anger to take punishment from others.”
“Serious, not true, when you are ups and downs, it is not a bad idea to pack a “confusing”.
The sensible “confusion” of the dangers, the clever “confusion” calms the contradictions.
Life is beautiful, and the world is worth it. You can save yourself and God can save you.
About the author: He sweet, rich bookmarks about the author, in the fierce city, thorns and thorns, but the heart is longing for the Dong Fen to pick up the chrysanthemum.
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