We are all angels

We are all angels

Two years ago, my wife and I resigned from a small city in the north to Hangzhou.

My wife is an editor at a newspaper office, and I continue to be my old-funded DJ.

  We lived in a friend’s old house, a very old house, in a small alley not far from the West Lake, it has been three years.

There are also four or five households inside, and we have few contacts with those who speak the southern dialect.

  There is a large iron gate in the yard with a huge lock on it, and each one in the yard has a key on the iron door.

Our iron gate key has always been in the hands of the wife.

I don’t know how it is formed. Everyone who lives in the yard comes back from the outside and pushes the bicycle into the yard. Even in the daytime, I have to lock the door.

Sometimes I wonder if it is because southerners are more vigilant than northerners.

  It happened on that hot afternoon.

  At that time, I was doing a music program in the afternoon.

I usually arrive at the radio half an hour before the live broadcast begins.

I have the habit of taking a nap in the summer.

The wife just happened to be in the newspaper, and it will not come back in the afternoon.

  Usually, my wife asked me to get up in the nap. I slept over that day and woke up only half an hour from the live broadcast.

At this time in the past, I was sitting in the office with a bunch of records ready to enter the live room.

I climbed up in sleepy eyes, went to the yard, saw the big black lock on the iron door, and then remembered the key in the wife’s hand.

I first saw if there were other people in the yard. As a result, I found that I was alone in the entire yard.

  I am in a hurry.

The wall is surprisingly high. I know that I can’t do it at all, and there is no phone in the room.

  I was so anxious in the yard.

I stood by the iron gate, like a prisoner who longed for freedom.

Then I saw him through the door.

He is a little girl who just passed through the hall.

He is still a child and will not be over 10 years old.

In the summer afternoon, he wore only a pair of dirty big shorts, his hair was like a straw, and his hand clutched the bag on his back as if it were filled with treasure.

  I shouted at him, I want to ask him to go to the alley to call his wife.

It seems that there is only this way.

The first thing I thought before I spoke was whether I should give him a little change as a reward.

I rummaged through my pocket and there was nothing but Zhang Baiyuan’s banknotes.

I am a little embarrassed, I can’t seem to do 100 yuan as a “change” to a beggar.

  I quickly ran back to the house to find some change, no success.

Then I saw two big gimmicks left in the cupboard last night.

Through the iron gate, I handed the two very soft hoes to him.

I can see that he is very happy. He thanked me with a mosquito-like voice and turned to leave.

I stopped him and told him very short that I needed him to go to the public telephone booth in the alley to help me make a call and put a hundred dollar bill on his palm.

He looked at the banknote he was trying to try and then shielded me.

I tried to smile at him, across the door, I then subsidized to say to him, I need your help, I am very anxious.

Then I saw him rushing to the alley.  He hasn’t returned since 10 minutes, I don’t think he will come back.

The comfort I gave myself was that he didn’t come back right – he ignored a stupid child.

  Then my neighbor came back and the neighbor opened the iron gate.

I borrowed the money from my neighbors and flew to the street to arrest the taxi.

  There was no delay in the live broadcast.

  In the evening, she asked Tai Qing, she said that no one called her.

I smiled and said to my wife that I trust the child.

My wife laughed at me.

My wife and I agreed that the child took the money to improve her life.

It’s just that.

My wife and I live as always.

  One day after two months, my wife and I were busy moving.

On Wenhua Road, we finally got our own house by installment.

The big iron gate is open, and I am busy with Taiqing and those who move the company.

The wife suddenly said to me that someone was staring at you at the door. When he looked at his wife’s gaze, the nail stunned: it was the child!

  He stood at the door and looked at me motionlessly, it seems to have been a long time.

When I looked at him, his brow stretched slightly, and then he punched his hand and slowly spread his palm.

  It is a hundred dollar bill that is huddled together.

He extended the hand to me, his black eyes looking at me and his wife.

He seems to be a consistently silent child.

  He also reported in the tiny voice of the mosquito. On that day, I was going to make a phone call. That day he had been running out of the long alley, and a sudden minivan hit his leg.

His little friend saved him. He was lying in his humble room for two months.

  Although we told him that he could keep this banknote, the 100 yuan was his, but when the man left, he still stubbornly left the money.

My wife and I watched his departure quietly, with a near-worship look.

  Perhaps life can vulgarly divide people in the city into three or six, etc., but at that moment, I began to believe that honesty as an ancient quality can make any person shine like an angel and illuminate himself.Representing the lives of others.

Wonderful case: adolescent sexual psychology

Wonderful case: adolescent sexual psychology

A 16-year-old student G, due to some bad behaviors of the 14-year-old sexual obscurity period, caused psychological disorders and behavior disorders, fear and pessimism, and almost died.

Diagnosed by a hospital as: neurosis; obsessive-compulsive neurosis; schizophrenia.

On January 21, 1990, he was accompanied by a guardian for treatment.


D society?

D physiology?


“D Medicine” is a five-dimensional medical model based on the theory of traditional Chinese medicine and the theory of pharmacology, which combines the treatment of the mind and the body, the combination of mind therapy and drug therapy, and carries out dialectical treatment.

Distinguish the disease as: depression.

Differentiation is as follows: bile indecision, unfavorable cardinal, internal disturbance of phlegm, and uneasiness.

After 36 diagnoses and treatments, psychological cues, psychological counseling, psychological cognition, psychological support, behavioral therapy, and recreational therapy were used; 24 doses of Chinese medicine were decoction, and 2240 grams of “Yang Xing Dan” (developed by our institute) were swallowed; it took more than 2 years,Finally, he gradually entered a good situation and recognized and established his “life goals and ways to achieve”.

In the past 12 years, he has been working hard to enrich himself and become a healthy man. He has received a car license and a skilled computer operator from a certain unit. He has repeatedly improved and advanced.

The treatment experience is introduced as follows.

  I. Brief introduction of medical history G, male, 16 years old, student, medical record number: 9001008.

Initial diagnosis on January 21, 1990.

Tensions, fears, guilt and suicide thoughts for more than a year.

He has been diagnosed and treated in several major medical schools with no significant effect.

The city psychiatric hospital was diagnosed as: (1) neurogenetic disorder; (2) obsessive-compulsive neurosis; (3) schizophrenia.

On examination: sinus bradycardia and arrhythmia; “Anti-O” 1200 units; EEG, voltage is too low.

It is said that one year ago, she “fighted” with her sister. She was afraid of being told by him. She was often silent, depressed, and pessimistic. She was not interested in all kinds of things. She behaved strangely.
Introduced to my clinic.

  Second, treatment overview At the first diagnosis, complained of chest tightness, abdominal distension, dizziness, nausea, restless sleep, dry stool.

The tongue is red, the edges are uneven, the white fur is slightly greasy, and the pulse strings.

Diagnosis: Depression (phobia).

Dialectics: biliary indecision, unfavorable cardinal, internal disturbance of phlegm, and uneasiness.

At first, Artemisia qingdantang decoction was added with mother-of-pearl, jujube kernel and rhubarb in three doses. After treatment, the symptoms were relieved.

Following the three-decoction of Wendan Decoction and Pinellia Houpu Tanghua Recipe, 100 grams of “Natural Dan” was swallowed 3 times a day, 5 grams each time.

He hinted that he had a pain in his heart and hoped to spit it out quickly.

At the 7th clinic, on February 18th, the patient said that since taking “Yangxing Dan”, “the courage is more than before”, the psychological symptoms have been relieved, and she is ready to continue to school.

On the 12th, March 7, the weather was fine. At 3 pm, the patient vomited more than a year of secrets and pain.

He said, “. At first I doubted and feared, and did not believe that my illness could be cured, and now my health is much better.

The weather is fine today, I decided to take time off to talk to you about my heart . “.

Due to the ignorance and curiosity of the obscure sexual period, the patient made some insults to her sister.

One day I saw the relevant law book by accident and felt that I had committed hooliganism and it was a crime. I was often afraid of being charged and arrested .

During the conversation, the doctors kindly, patiently and meticulously conducted psychological counseling, psychological awareness and psychological support to the patients. The patients’ expressions were lively, and their eyes were calm, excited and happy.

This is the turning point in the treatment process.

Since then, the patient’s psychosomatic symptoms have gradually improved.

At the 23rd clinic, on May 12, the patient expressed his confusion: What does it mean to live?How can I live a good life?

The doctor gives answers one by one while talking with the patient.

Writing while talking, explaining while drawing, the patient nodded frequently and smiled.

On the third day after the individuality (May 14th), the doctors sent the arranged pictures and texts of the “paths to achieve life goals” to the patients when they visited the home.

  Since then, the patient’s mental and physical condition has gradually entered a good condition.

There are often small repetitions, and the doctors all join in time to resolve.

  This case went through 36 consultations (each medical record), from January 21, 1990 to July 8, 1992, which lasted more than 2 years.

Psychotherapy includes: psychological cues, psychological counseling, psychological cognition, psychological support, behavior therapy, recreation therapy, etc.

Drug therapy: take 24 decoctions of traditional Chinese medicine, 2240 grams of “Yang Xing Dan” (developed by our institute).

  Third, the outcome of the disease on July 8, 1992, the patient visited, informed that the graduation examination and assessment have passed, received a certificate in mid-August, assigned work in September, and sent two recent full-body photos.

  After 12 years of contact, patients are still working hard to enrich themselves and reflect their value in life.

Now that he is physically and mentally healthy, he has become a technician and backbone of a certain unit. He has obtained a driver’s license for a car, is proficient in operating a computer, and has inherited advanced technology many times.

  Fourth, what are the examples of this case is that the doctor follows the “natural?”

D society?
D physiology?

The “D medicine” five-dimensional medical model, based on the traditional Chinese medicine’s theory of health and rationale and prescriptions, combines the treatment of mind and body, mind and medicine, and carries out dialectical treatment.

  ”Nei Jing” reads: “The gall is the official of Zhongzheng, and he is determined to make a concubine.”

Decisive bile and unfavorable cardinalities will produce many psychological and physical symptoms and cause various diseases.

The general rules for treating typical diseases are: helping them to make decisions, “adjusting where yin and yang are located” (Ke Yunbo); reconciling cardinals, “yin and yang self-healing must heal” (Zhang Zhongjing).

The treatment of this case is its evidence.

Psychological disorders and behavioral disorders caused by different reasons are more common in adolescents.

What is the meaning of life?

How to achieve your own life goals and values?

It is the suspicion of excessive youth.

The treatment in this case has always been around this theme.

  Lao Qiu said: Psychological consultation is only one of the methods to solve various psychological problems.

While we use pure consulting theory to solve psychological problems, there are also many people exploring how to solve psychological problems more effectively.

The ancients said: Interlacing is like separating mountains.

The ancients also said: Do not separate every other line.

  As a psychological counseling practitioner, I hope we can learn more about the problem-solving methods than the counseling technology.

Therefore, Lu Fangweng said: “You want to learn poetry, poetry is outside of kung fu” Admittedly!

Mastering skincare techniques to make beauty easier

Master skincare techniques to make beauty easier

As a woman, you must recognize your own facial problems. Acne, moisturizing, sun protection, whitening, and anti-aging are required courses for facial care.

So, how can we make the pink and delicate face never fade?

Xiaobian Life is here to provide you with all kinds of beauty and skin care information, so that the beautiful face is always there, so that your youth will always be permanent!


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Follow the direction of facial lymphatic detoxification, from top to bottom, the three areas of the entire face, upper and lower forehead, facial jaw and chin; with the nose as the middle length, insert it on both sides sequentially.

  Makeup remover: first warm the makeup remover in the palm, activate it, then tilt it from the top to the bottom, and tilt it to the sides from the nose. After absorbing it on the forehead, face, jaw, and chin, then gently block it with the palm.Remove makeup and oil from pores.

  Cleansing Foam: Use warm water to make foam in the palm of your hand, and use the foam on the surface to clean the skin in a circular manner (use the foam to make the circular sliding movement, try not to pull the skin), then rinse with water.

  Eye cream: The eye is the thinnest part of the skin and no sweat glands.

Therefore, be sure to use eye cream before the face cream, otherwise oily particles may be generated.

Depending on the essence, it depends on whether the specific product can be applied to the eyes: if it is an essence that can be used on the eyes, use it before the eye cream.

With a rice-sized eye cream, use your middle finger and ring finger (the two lightest fingers) to gently extend the inner corner of the eye and press it. You can make a circular motion, but the amplitude and intensity must be small.

  Essence, cream: follow the direction of facial lymphatic detox, tilt from the nose to both sides, smear the entire face across the forehead, jaw and chin, and then gently pull the cream in the above direction with your palmJust fine.

Night cream and serum can be massaged a little.

  Eye Makeup Remover: Cover the eyes with two makeup sheets dipped into the eye makeup remover / liquid, and gently wipe with both hands. After warming, gently wipe off the eye shadow, eyeliner and other makeup from top to bottom.

Then put the cotton pad under your eyes, use the cotton pad to dip the eye makeup remover, comb it carefully, and clean the mascara residue.

  Toner: Gently patting the toner on the bladder with your palm may feel more comfortable and not wasteful, but this way does not best absorb the toner on the entire sheet.

The correct way is: start from the center of the forehead with the cotton pad soaked in toner, and tilt it to the left and right with the midline of the nose as the top and bottom across the entire face.

In this way, even the eye socket area can fully enjoy the cleansing and moisturizing effect of the toner.

  Skin care milk / cream: If you want the skin to better absorb moisturizing products, it is very effective to push the pores from the bottom to the top.

First apply the cream on the chin, the two jaws, the forehead and the tip of the nose, and then start from the chin in a circular motion slowly upward, through the nose, to the forehead; and then spread the cream on the cheeks from the sides of the mouth up.

If it is an emulsion, you can make better use of the palm and adhere evenly over a large area.

For soothing fragrance products, this method allows the nose with sensitive nose to enjoy the fragrance soothing first.

  Foundation: Sometimes after using the foundation, the eyes may overlap with lumps-this is most likely related to the application of the foundation.

Because the pores open downward when vertical, the top-down approach causes the foundation to better cover the pores, and also plays a protective role.

First, squeeze the foundation on the back of the hand outside the base of the thumb to let the temperature change emulsify and the brakes to absorb evenly.

Then use your fingers to place the foundation on your chin, under your cheekbones, forehead and nose.

Without the help of a professional makeup artist, a dedicated sponge is the best choice.

The foundation on the forehead and nose is smoothed from top to bottom; the foundation under the cheekbones is spread to the two jaws diffusely (this keeps the thickest part of the foundation under the cheekbones): the chin is also top to bottomApply evenly.

Comments on the nutrition and health effects of mushrooms

Comments on the nutrition and health effects of mushrooms

Mushrooms are called “vegetable steak” by nutrition experts because their nutritional composition is between vegetables and meat.

  Meat is generally regarded as a good source of protein, so it has the disadvantage of a small amount and a high cholesterol ratio, so nutrition experts have repeatedly reminded to limit the supplement.

In contrast, although the protein of mushrooms is not as high as that of meat, it is several times higher than vegetables, and has the same low content. It is unfortunately supplemented by modern people, which is easy to make up for inadequate fiber. It is very rich in nutrition.

  B vitamins: especially vitamin B1, vitamin B2, nicotinic acid, and folic acid.

Without eggs, milk vegetarians can absorb vitamin B2 from mushrooms.

  Folic acid: Especially important for older people and women preparing to conceive, and helps reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease, cancer.

  Ergosterol: This is the precursor of vitamin D2. After being exposed to sunlight, it will be converted into vitamin D2, which will help our body absorb it more efficiently and use calcium to strengthen bones and teeth.

  Supplement fiber: It is beneficial to the growth of probiotics in the body, maintain a healthy interaction environment, and prevent constipation and colorectal cancer.

  People who are losing weight should choose low-calorie, low-fat mushrooms more, and fiber is easy to give you a sense of satiety and let you eat less.

Marriage: The Embarrassment of the Female Leader and the Male Leader

Marriage: The Embarrassment of the Female Leader and the Male Leader

Anthropologists have always believed that the most important task for women is to choose a spouse that can support the functioning of the family.

Laura followed this rule, and her husband of choice had a job that most women thought was a poor job-lawyer.

  ”Marry a lawyer,” she said, “I always thought it was a great choice because lawyers have a high income.

“Because she didn’t need to work hard to make ends meet, Laura began to try to have a light-weight casual worker, which could guarantee that she would have the whole afternoon to take care of the children.

  In the initial acceleration, Laura did realize her dream.

Her husband Jonathan earns a six-figure salary every month, and she spends a little time as a relaxed pet rearing consultant.

  But the good times didn’t last long. In May last year, Jonathan lost his job and he didn’t find a job again.

The burden of supporting the family suddenly fell on Laura’s shoulder.

Although their 5-year-old son Dylan often praises his father for taking care of him, it seems that Dylan is the only one who is satisfied with the change.

“This is not the life I want.

Said Laura, busy with her work.

At the same time, Jonathan was annoyed that he couldn’t cook a good meal. “I’m very frustrated.

“He wrote.

  Unemployed fathers, like many families, the Earp family is experiencing this pain and helplessness-the father is unemployed and the mother must go out to make money.

The unemployment crisis is gradually rising, and the number of unemployed men across the country has now exceeded 8,800,000.

Some of them are doing temporary jobs, including some who make money by playing online games.

However, this can only bring a small amount of income.

What’s more serious is that many frustrated employees have even given up the opportunity to continue looking for work.

  It is gratifying that at least 1,700,000 unemployed men have the assistance of competent wives. These women have abandoned their “weak roles”
in history and resolutely rely on hard work to reduce the financial burden on their families.

  At present, women’s education is generally higher than men’s.

In 1983, 34% of high-paid jobs were held by women; by 2001, half of the work had been done separately.

Although the average income of women is still lower than that of men, in the 2001 statistics, 30.

In 7% of families, wives have higher incomes, and they earn far more than their husbands.

  In this case, the husband can only do the heavy housework.

  The single-income era has a more obvious marriage pressure for some households where unemployed husbands do housework: money.

  When the Internet was on the rise, Gregg Wetterman succeeded by organizing a network for the Dallas Institute of Technology.

His wife Jennie is proud to recall those days.

“In the summer of 2001, I was in the pool every day,” Jennie said.

“I go diving and dive from the air-I have to read 30 books.

“But when the technical college arose, Gregg skipped a series of unstable jobs.

When his career prospects were very bleak, an older Jennie boss asked her if she wanted to go to Old Navy for management.

Gregg said, “When she had the opportunity, I said,‘ you do n’t have to do it, ‘but I mean,‘ please, please, please . ‘”.

  When Jennie worked 50 hours a week, Gregg drove their children to school to make a documentary (no one has been sold yet).

Their two cars added up to 286,000 miles; they locked their phones to save money.

At the kitchen table, the stress is obvious.

According to Gregg, unpaid work, production and technology marketing for documents related to military operations is much smarter than a job just to make up for its dissatisfaction.

“I would like to see everyone in their role,” she said.

“I don’t want to be in this state for two years.I must stop.

Greg said that might not be the case.

“It’s not obvious,” he said, “Jennie can get a better job.

“For many couples, changing roles may be a routine part of life.

Career consultants say there will be more job changes in the 21st century career, people will have more time to use training outside of work, or because of reduced size.

  Many couples discuss this issue before they have children.

That’s the case with lawyer Jennifer McCaskill, 33, and accountant Ryan Schock, 28.

They are preparing for the wedding in September, and the current topic is who will take care of the children in the future.

“To be frank, I don’t want to be a homeowner.

“Jennifer McCaskil said,” I have a lot of opportunities to make money, and I don’t want to spend my time at home.

And Ryan Schock responded: “I believe he will be a good dad because he has enough patience to take care of his family, but I don’t.

“Don’t worry about what profession it is and how much money it can make. One consequence is inevitable: the party that happens at the end will eventually lead to trivial housework.

  ”Can he do more?

Sherie Zebrowski couldn’t accept that her husband, Sean, was unemployed, and when he went home to tell the news, she thought it was a joke.

  As a software sales engineer for the Austin, Texas company, he earned $ 80,000 and commission bribes to allow Sherie to take care of their two children, exercise three sports and take weekend classes.

In the two years before he lost his job, Sean spent a long time looking for a similar job, but returned without success.

Now, the couple continues.

  ”I tried not to doubt him-he did a good job,”

“But after some time, you wonder: Did he find the right direction?

What else can he do?

“To pay for everything, Sherie began to change her hobby-decorative painting became a business.

Soon after, there was a job that worked 10 hours a day. When Sean was surfing the Internet, she also had most of the housework.

When the parish priests asked how they were doing, Sherie began to cry.

She told the priest: “I can understand the stress of work can ruin marriage.

“So the Zebrowskis family sat down to discuss.

“I said,‘ or go to the cashier to work or you help me, ‘”Sherie said.

Sean developed a sales plan for her oil painting business, and then began evaluating and raising prices.

They started hiring contracts.

Business is continuing, but not ideally.

“I’m still looking for work,” Sean said.

“Once I found it, Sherie could sleep well again.

This is not what I want, but I like to eat.

I will continue to sell software.

Just a matter of time.

Some of the things that Zebrowskis went through were common: among those couples, who did the housework became a battlefield.

Some men acknowledge that wives have a bionic look when their husbands are at home all day.

“I don’t notice some dirt, but she can find debris molecules,” said Brian Reid, a former reporter and now he is taking care of his daughter and his wife is a lawyer.

Sociologists believe that in fact, some men rarely do housework when they are not working.


Unemployment has threatened their masculinity, and doing some “female” work, such as playing the toilet, may only make them feel worse.
  ”I feel like I’m being eliminated.” Bill Laut, a former asset appraiser, is a thing of the past.
His wife, a manager of an important company, is busy working for high income.

Bill Laut did almost all the housework for this 6-year-old family of 3.

Every day he goes in and out of the grocery store, buys the things he needs at home, and silently accepts the strange eyes of passersby.

“Your wife is so abominable to let men do such things.

“They said to him.

And Bill Laut always caters to curious people by pretending to be passing by the grocery store in search of his wife.

“It was helpless. When our child was a baby, I was busy changing diapers 27 times a day.

Even so, there are still many people who think that I am unproductive and take up my wife’s light.

Sometimes I really feel like a person who has been eliminated by society.

Chinese Medicine Acupuncture Stomach and Eye Bag

Chinese Medicine Acupuncture Stomach and Eye Bag

Chinese medicine divides bags under the eyes into congenital and acquired.

Congenital is inherited. Acquired is due to long-term adverse stimulation of the eyelid skin, such as incorrect massage, tears, and eyeliner drawing, which eventually cause the eyelid skin to relax and shrink.

The treatment method is: connect the power, acupuncture is accompanied by acupuncture points such as the sun, fish waist and Ashi points.

The electric current causes the eyelid muscles to contract and beat significantly, accelerates the local partial decomposition, and tightens the loose eyelids.

  Acupuncture to remove bags under the eyes is a safe and stable prevention and treatment measure.

It is especially suitable for “pseudo-eye bags” of pure orbicularis type.

  Chinese medicine also believes that the formation of bags under the eyes is directly related to the spleen and stomach function of the human body, especially the spleen function, which directly affects muscle function and slight metabolism in the body.

From the actual anatomy of the meridian meridian points, the location of the bags under the eyes is exactly the change initiated by the foot meridian of the stomach meridian, thereby starting the stomach meridian, and usually massage the points of the stomach meridian such as Zusanli and FenglongImproving the function of the spleen and stomach is very practical for eliminating bags under the eyes.

What to do if the baby is wetting?

What to do if the baby is wetting?

It is normal for a baby who can urinate to urinate in the potty at the age of 1 year. At the age of one and a half years, his ability has returned, and he revisits the old industry-diapers.

The baby may not be able to figure out why he doesn’t like the toilet, just like an adult is too lazy to move one day not because he is tired.

  If the mother and the baby compete, and the baby has to sit on the potty, the baby will cry and the mother will get angry, and the result will be even worse.

The generosity of the parents at this time is not indulgence or self-esteem for the baby.

  But shouldn’t he continue to train his baby to control his urine?

Of course not, parents should continue to encourage their babies and wait for their progress with the greatest patience.

  Controlling urinating babies at night is able to wake up to urinate at night.

However, if the baby is not able to wake up at night to urinate, the mother does not need to wake the baby to urinate again and again, this will make the sleeping baby cry and disturb the baby’s sleep cycle.

  There is no evidence that it is enough to wake the baby to urinate at night, or to wake the baby to urinate at a fixed time, so that the baby learns to control urination at night earlier.

The urine-filled bladder sends a signal to a sleeping baby, wakes him up in sleep, and tells his mother to urinate.

Don’t worry, your baby won’t keep wetting because you didn’t wake him up to urinate.



Lycium barbarum does not contain any toxins and can be consumed for a long time. It is one of the traditional Chinese medicines released by the Ministry of Health that can share the same medicine and food.

  Although Chinese wolfberry has good nourishing effects, it is not suitable for everyone.

The book “Chinese Materia Medica” pointed out that the spleen and stomach were cold, and those who suffered from intestinal slippage should not use wolfberry.

  Although Chinese wolfberry has the effect of nourishing the liver and kidney, the sweet and moisturizing drugs are usually not easy to digest, so the indigestion caused by weak spleen and stomach should be used with caution for diarrhea.

  Because the effect of warming the body of wolfberry is quite strong, it is a cold and fever, and people who have breathing in the body should not take it often.

  Lycium barbarum also enhances sexual function, and those with hypersexual function should not take it for a long time.

  Healthy adults should not take more than 20 grams of wolfberry per day; if used for treatment, take 30 grams per day under the guidance of a doctor.

Psychological skills to relieve obsessive

Psychological skills to relieve obsessive

When I left home, I always felt that my door was not locked. I couldn’t help but ran home and watched the door lock carefully. On the way to work, I always felt that things were forgotten, and then I checked my bag repeatedly; I felt my mobile phone ringing in an illusion.Continue to take out the mobile phone from the package; the company’s report is not difficult to check without repeated inspections, and my heart is uncomfortable.

  This has happened to many people.

In particular, a considerable number of management people are striving for perfection and sometimes over-exertion. They are too strict and even demanding on themselves and others. This will cause them to be forced and behave for a long time in a state of tension and worry.

  The survey shows that obsessive-compulsive or compulsive behavior accounts for 20% of patients in psychotherapy clinics, and obsessive-compulsive disorder is increasingly becoming a “fashion disease” for modern urban populations.

  Psychologists believe that for some less serious compulsive behaviors, certain psychological rehabilitation and control can be taken:

Psychological suggestion: I may suspect that the door is not locked. After locking the door for the first time, standing in front of the door, I repeatedly warned myself: “I have locked the door, and now I turn away, nothing!

“Let’s repeat this chanting a few times and stick to it. It won’t take long to correct the problems in the past.”


Note: Stick a note in the initial position, which says “I have done a great job!”

Very good!

“Remind yourself not to always be there, everywhere, and everything is too perfect.”


Self-statistics: Make a statistical table, look at yourself one day, repeat the forced behavior in some aspects, record the number of repetitions, and set goals for yourself, asking yourself to gradually reduce the number of forced times.

  Through these psychotherapy tips, we can adjust our emotions appropriately and alleviate compulsive behavior.

However, for some serious obsessive-compulsive symptoms, you should still turn to a professional doctor.

Men desperately hiding psychological privacy

Men desperately hiding psychological privacy

For men, there are always a few civilians who are reluctant to tell women.

For example, his work situation, he feels that his girlfriend is here to share happiness, and is unwilling to bring unhappy things over.

Similarly, in order to prevent women from being jealous, they will not disclose their emotional experiences and so on.

  Women’s privacy is usually written in the diary, locked in place, and even posted in the boudoir, only to tell her girlfriend.

What about men?

Men also have wealth, but their wealth is generally in their hearts.

Women’s personalities are usually shared with others, but men’s arbitrary anonymity is so deep that they can only chew them carefully.

Women want to know the wealth of a man, because only in this way can he easily penetrate into his inner world and become his spiritual partner.


The working situation is in the heart of the man. He feels that his girlfriend is here to share happiness. He hopes to give you the best and give you happiness.

Therefore, men do not want to let you know about things at work, especially things that are unhappy at work.

Profit or loss?

Is the bonus less or longer?

How is the boss treating himself?

Such questions, men generally do not like women to ask at home.

He knew that even if I told you, it wouldn’t help.

Because things are still there, and you can’t solve them, help.

Having told you, it will only increase your troubles.

He doesn’t want to distract you, he doesn’t want you to be.

There are some facts that men and men want to keep it secret because they don’t want to bring daytime things into the night. Therefore, men do not like women to interfere in work matters.A pleasant thing.

  Of course, if you think you care about him, you should care about his work. You think this is the most basic.

But don’t put your intention on him, he doesn’t necessarily like it.


Emotional experience Female friends are very interested in her boyfriend’s past, especially his ex-girlfriend, so you may have been tangled on this issue, and you must know his emotional experience.

  Emotional experience is their wealth to men. Generally speaking, he will not tell you casually.

Do n’t think that your boyfriend does not love you, he does n’t tell you, he is afraid that you think he still remembers his ex-girlfriend, and that you will never live in depression and be happy.

Everyone has a past, and he doesn’t investigate your past, so why bother entangled with the past, as long as he only holds you in his heart now, as long as you are single-minded about you.

Let his emotional experience be a dusty past.

Set his secret as a “minefield” in your heart, and always remind yourself not to get involved. Even if you hear only a few words, don’t dig deeper. Your stubbornness and stinginess arouse his memories and even remember the “her”What are the benefits?


This is my own thing. Maybe your man will often say “this is my own thing” before you. When you hear this sentence, please don’t give up.

You have to know that if you continue to ask questions, you will only lose both.

  If he goes out for entertainment, you don’t have to ask who he is with.

If he wants to tell you, he will definitely tell you, to trust your man.

  Women work on details, they like to communicate, they ask questions, and they even talk about horns. So in general, he wo n’t tell you some small things. He has a sense of being . many times he thinks it ‘s a man ‘s business.No need to fuss about it, because men’s affairs must be done by men.

Just give him some space.

When he needs you as a wife, don’t try to be a planner for his work and life.

Everyone has a psychological need to have their own living space, and men are no exception, so women’s wise choice is: let him go crazy, what fox friends and dogs, work conditions.A piece of his “reservation land”, he will cultivate!

I like to watch a lot of female friends often heard that her husband or boyfriend is often addicted to A, even when sex, or even to learn some of the actions in A.

Too many female friends even break up or divorce him for this problem.

  Men like to watch pornographic videos just because men are “visual.”

The strength of this kind of sexual consciousness that men like to watch pornographic films is determined by the relationship between the inherent eroticism of the individual and the difficulty of approaching the subject.

Of course, it’s not wrong to watch A films, but it won’t work if you are too addicted.

You can watch with him and follow suit.

In the process of watching, you must give him proper guidance, communicate more, and understand his inner thoughts on the A movie. Only in this way can he not be in a state of addiction.

If you dislike and disagree with him, he may continue to be addicted.

  Remember that this is his wealth, and don’t talk about these things as good things, just know in your heart.

If others know his diversity, he will definitely break up with you without saying a word.


Feminine demand Man looks strong on the surface, in fact, he also has a fragile side.

Sometimes he will spoil him in front of you, sometimes he will cry in front of you.

Don’t think that he looks like a sissy, because men also have various “feminine” psychological needs.

In terms of individual life, men are actually more vulnerable than women. However, both women and men have pointed out the behavior of men.

It seems that a man means masculine, strong, pragmatic, carefree, and unscrupulous.

In fact, otherwise, men also have a lot of unknown “feminine needs”, but they only keep secrets that they don’t tell, and women can’t open it up to see what happens.

  A man is a face animal and likes women to appreciate and worship.

Therefore, the privacy of men must not be lightly revealed. Women only need to face calmly, realize understanding, and understand in their hearts.

Don’t tell it by mouth, let alone encourage him by love, “weak childish”, otherwise, men will think you look down on him, which can’t bear him.

His admiration for vanity and stinking beauty is also an unspoken thing, which will only make him angry and angry.


Sexual worries Although many men and wives are more harmonious in sexual love, men will always be involuntarily worried and worried . But these worries are not willing to let his wife know, let alone her cause.

Sex is a man’s life-long event, he cares a lot, and is an important cornerstone of man’s self-esteem and self-confidence.

Men are more or less concerned about their sexual abilities.

It’s a big secret that cannot be known to women.

  If you find that your man is “sexual” behind, you have actually struggled.

Then don’t panic.

Your admiration and trust are the best “viagra” for a man. Indeed, he is the “slide” that causes the cause. As a wife or girlfriend, you should be impassive and insurmountable.

  If his sexual concerns are pointed out in your mouth or known to outsiders, you will know the seriousness of the problem, he will make you serious, and you are ready to break up.


I like to talk about a few young men together, especially when several acquaintances chat together.

This can not be simply regarded as low-level indecent, this is a common psychological psychological reflection of men.

There are three main reasons for this: pass the boredom, relax the tension in the lounge by borrowing such boring words; promote the harmonious and harmonious atmosphere of gossip; when there are women nearby, some people abuse the language and obscenity.Time response.

  Among the interviewers, people of different ages and experiences have different psychology.

Older, more experienced people talk about it, often to exaggerate their knowledge, but they should have concealed it, but this kind of psychology is puzzling to women.

People who are young and inexperienced talk mostly from a strange vanity. They do not want to be regarded as lack of experience or do not understand the world, so they are smart and talk about it.

  In addition, some people are in a tense state of sexual thirst, and their conversations have the effect of relaxing tension and venting sexual desire.